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2012-01-02

The adultery commandment of Exodus 20:14 seems like a pretty good idea at first blush. Marriage is a contract in which two people commit their lives to each other, and if theyíre screwing around behind each otherís backs, nothing good can come out of that. Thus, it should be made illegal. Well, like every other commandment weíve discussed, the bible is horribly vague. First of all, God hasnít made any attempt to even define adultery, and, as the old saying goes, the devil is in the details.

We can use the colloquial definition, which means, ďhaving sex with someone who isnít your spouse,Ē a rule that applies equally to husband and wife. But as believers point out, it doesnít matter how modern society views the law, it matters how God views the law. Which means, that we need to know what adultery means in the context of the bible.

Weíll soon learn, that, according to the bible, if a married women has sex with anyone except her husband, she has committed adultery. Okay, so far the bible is in harmony with our modern definition. Now surely that same rule applies to married men, right? Well, donít forget that this is a time when women are considered a liability. Fathers had to pay a dowry to the men who would take them off their hands and assume ownership.

Regarding men, itís only adultery if they have sex with another married women. Married men are allowed to have have sex with prostitutes, concubines, and their other wives without the act being considered adultery. Also, unmarried men can have sex with other unmarried women as long as theyíre not virgins (more on that later). Furthermore, women are not allowed to have multiple husbands, concubines, or visit male-prostitutes.

In case youíre wondering, fornication (premarital sex) is mentioned in a negative light in the Old Testament, but it is never once considered a crime. Although, like the word adultery, the definition of fornicate has changed since the bible was translated.

We know about these unfair advantages for men, not just from our understanding of ancient Middle-Eastern cultures, but also from the bible itself (remember Judah shagging his daughter-in-law?).

This is how adultery is defined in the Old Testament, but we know that God changes his unchanging mind in the New Testament because Jesus tells us that looking at a woman lustfully or getting a divorce is considered adultery (Matthew 5:27-32).

Iíve never been married, so I canít have committed adultery using the Old Testamentís definition. However, when it comes to Jesusí definition of looking at women lustfully, I cheerfully break that sucker every day!

 

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Willy Galleta writes:

 

And there's the possibility that lifelong monogamous relations are not good for everyone, even in sociological terms. There could be other working family models, too. Maybe. If they where not taboo.

TheAlmightyGuru writes:

 

I'm totally on-board with polyamorous relationships. I also don't have a problem with multiple-partner marriages provided they are accessible to both men and women.

Richard writes:

 

There are other types of family group that work very well, and often much better than the 'traditional' husband-wife-kids model. Humans are a social creature, and isolating pairs of them with just their offspring is actually not very healthy psychologically.

An extended family group with more than two parents (polygamy or non-partner adults and elders) is more ideal, and makes a better self-contained unit.

Perhaps that is why religion frowns on it. If you are fully happy and fulfilled in your own family group and have all your social needs met, why would you need to have their religious network?

Samael writes:

 

If memory serves, actually, the reason religion decided polygamy was such a bad thing was because there was less chance of inheritance defaulting to the church in a polygamous relationship.

*Hunts* Ah, here it was: http://livinglifewithoutanet.wordpress.com/2009/01/30/myth-sexuality-and-culture-the-influence-of-the-church/

Outlaw concubines, wetnursing, polygamy and bestowing inheritance upon anything but blood heirs, and then propogandize that leaving your inheritance to the church is the morally correct thing to do. Bingo! Free money, just add religious slaves.


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